
Kirsty Beaton
4 Oct 2025
Secret Women's Business
Womb & Sexual Healing: Reclaim Your Pussy, Reclaim Your Power
Welcome to Your Sacred Space
Your pussy is not just for someone else’s pleasure, carrying a baby, or enduring pain. She is your portal to intuition, creativity, and joy. Over time, many women learn to say yes when their body quietly whispers no — and in that silence, we can lose touch with our deepest self.
This page is an invitation to reclaim your body, reconnect with your womb, and remember that your pleasure, safety, and sovereignty belong to you first.
Note on Language
I use the word pussy here, not as something crude or objectified, but as a word of reclamation. You may prefer vulva, yoni, womb space, sacred portal, or something entirely your own — whatever you choose is fantastic. The point is to name, honor, and listen to her in a way that feels right for you.
Content Note: Sexual Trauma
In the following section, I speak about sexual trauma — including the kind that happens quietly, when we say yes even though our body says no. Please move gently. If this brings up emotion, know that you can pause, breathe, skip ahead, or return when you feel supported. You are in control here.
Start Where You Are — No Judgment
Healing begins with compassion, not blame. If you’ve experienced sexual trauma, or if you weren’t taught that it’s okay to know your pussy, say no, or even connect with this sacred part of your body, that is not your fault.
Your journey is simply starting where you are — acknowledging the truth of your body, your history, and your current sensations without shame. Blame helps no one; curiosity and gentleness do.
Even small steps — a breath, a hand over your womb, or simply noticing sensations — are powerful acts of reclamation. Every moment of self-compassion builds trust, courage, and sovereignty.
Consent & Full-Body Yes
Healing begins with listening. Many of us were taught to prioritize others’ desires over our own — to give consent even when our body wasn’t ready. True consent is a full-body yes: a moment where your heart, pelvis, mind, and spirit align in agreement.
Practices to begin cultivating full-body consent:
Pause before sexual activity (solo or partnered) and check in with your body.
Notice any tension, hesitation, or neutrality — these are messages, not failings.
Practice saying “no” or “not now” as fully and as kindly as you can.
Rebuilding this trust with your pussy is not selfish — it is reclamation.
Rebuilding Trust With Your Pussy
Your pussy is a living friend, not a utility. She holds memory, sensation, and intuition. Rebuilding trust may include:
Listening to her signals without judgment
Apologizing inwardly for times you overrode her voice
Offering small acts of care, attention, and acknowledgement
Remembering that neutrality, calmness, or even guardedness is sacred — you don’t need arousal to be connected
This trust is the foundation for all healing, creativity, and pleasure that follows.
Acknowledging Pain & Numbness
Many women carry physical pain (like endometriosis or chronic period discomfort) or emotional numbness from past experiences. This does not make you broken — it makes you human. Healing begins with acknowledgment:
“I see you. I feel you. I honor all that you have endured.”
By naming your pain, you open the door to gentle connection and reclamation.
Honoring Deep Womb Grief
Many women carry experiences that leave deep echoes in their womb space — womb or birth trauma, difficulty conceiving, or the loss of a child. These experiences can feel heavy, silent, or isolating, and they often shape the way we relate to our bodies and our sensuality.
Healing begins with acknowledgment, not blame. You are not at fault for what you have experienced, nor for the ways your body may have shut down, gone numb, or disconnected. Even small acts of attention — a breath, a hand on your womb, or a whispered hello — are profound steps toward reclaiming connection, love, and safety.
Your womb remembers, your pussy listens, and you are allowed to meet her with gentleness.
A Gentle Note on Emotions and Memories
Womb and yoni healing practices can sometimes bring memories, feelings, or sensations to the surface — including grief, anger, sadness, or long-held tension. This is natural, and it is a sign that your body is remembering and processing.
Be gentle with yourself. Move at your own pace.
Allow space for what needs to arise. You can breathe, journal, move, or speak to a trusted friend or practitioner.
Seek support if emotions feel overwhelming. Healing is safest when it is held with care, love, and guidance.
Remember: your womb remembers, your pussy listens, and your sovereignty is always yours. There is no rush — only the sacred journey of reconnection.
The Womb as a Center of Creativity
Your womb is more than a site of potential childbirth — it is the root of your creativity, imagination, and joy. When your womb space is closed, blocked, or ignored, your creative spark can dim. When you reconnect:
Ideas flow more freely
Playfulness returns
Your inner child feels seen and heard
Emotional freedom blooms
Every act of attention, care, or ritual opens a channel for creation in your life, beyond the physical.
The Womb as an Ancestral Vessel
You are a living continuation of your lineage. Every egg you carry began in your mother, while she was still inside your grandmother. This means:
Your womb may carry ancestral patterns — grief, fear, or silenced voices
Emotional or sexual shutdown, people-pleasing, or numbness may have roots before you
Healing your womb is not just personal — it is lineage reclamation, softening inherited patterns and choosing a new legacy
By honoring your body, you also honor the women who came before you and the generations who will follow.

